JUST.

Gentle reminder: You ALWAYS have a choice! 🪄

What kind of a world would you like to (co) create? Share it in the comments below and let’s inspire each other and connect!

With great Love,

An-Sofie

We all struggle sometimes. Heck! I know I do! 😅

But I did notice that the people I love to hang out with, are the ones who know how to self regulate. They express what is alive in them, and are not scared to let the people around them know what would make life more wonderful for them.

Lesson here: the more you know your Self, and are able to connect to your own needs, the easier it is for you to be completely you! And the more relaxed it is for others around you, because they know they are not ‘responsible’ for constantly ‘scanning’ you for your subconscious needs.

I have been both: the constant scanner (hello trauma response, and being a ‘good flight attendant’) ànd the one unaware of what was alive in her and expecting others to just ‘know’ (hello disconnection from self).

The combination is often the root for self-abandonment. Not a popular nor ‘pretty’ word… but one I would like to make discuss-able. So we can all learn from each other. And so.. co-create a safe space. Where we all feel heard, seen and valued for who we are (not all our ‘alter egos’s’).

But, again, the groundwork for this safe space.. in my humble opinion… lie within ourselves. The fist step is always: start WITHIN.

Inner stability is a gift for both yourself as anyone you come into contact with.

It is my mission to share as much tools as I have learned over the last 2 decades or so, in the hope that we might co-create a kinder and more loving and ‘safe’ world together. For ourselves, and the generations to come.

Are you with me?

Let me know in the comments below! 👇

With great Love,

An-Sofie

Love lettres…

I absolutely LOVE them! Both writing as recieving them. It is só incredibly nourishing to the soul and can really uplift both reciever as the writer of them!

It invites you to shift your focus from ‘all that is wrong with your life and this world’ to ‘what do I appreciate and cherish about this other person and how they contribute to my life.’

Such. A. Big. Game. Changer!!!

Truly!

It is one of my biggest go-to’s when feeling lonely, disconnected, useless, heart broken or stuck. It immediately shifts my perspective on Life and I start seeing all the good there still is (even though there is a lot of darkness that is being portrayed all around us).

I once heard: if you cannot find goodness, be the goodness.

And that stuck.

Currently single, not recieving a lot of love notes 🙈😅) I love continuing to write them: to friends, family, … even to myself and all of my parts.

Also: what you see in others lives for a certain part within yourself too. So if you have a hard time seeing it within yourself, I truly would love to invite you:

Find pen and paper, sit down and start writing a love lettre.

Feeling ballsy? Send it out to the one you write it to and double the pleasure!

Hope this post helped. If it did: it would mean the world to me that you let me know in the comments below how. 😅🙏

With great Love,

An-Sofie

“I feel irritated because I feel like I’m running behind!”

There is a LOT of pressure out there, and this might bring you in a reactive state (chicken without a head-syndrome): you start feeling pressured to do more, be faster, better, richer,… NOW! Now now now now now!!!!

But maybe all the body wants is to rest! And is in need of loving support. And being heard, without judgement. And being surrounded by loved ones.

My invitation to you today:

Be truly gentle with yourself, on all possible levels.

Tune in with your deeper layers, take a step back with me to slow down and observe within yourself:

“What is happening, and how is my body reacting to it? Is this nourishing to me or not? If not, how can I look at it from a different angle? Or is there any other way to support myself in this situation? (by stepping away from a job/relationship that no longer fulfills you, by assessing your habits and taking first steps in changing them, by allowing yourself to rest or ask for support,…)”

Whatever comes up, try to really holding space for that, and if needed, act upon your soul’s desires. Again, NOT from a space of Fear, but from a space of deep Trust, Love, Empathy and Care towards yourself. Because you know that the better you learn to take care of yourself, the better you will be able to hold space for others to show up fully too.

In a world that normalizes being ‘hard & fast’, I would like to invite you to SLOW down and reconnect with you inner wisdom and loving gentleness at your OWN pace.

Like nature, allow yourself to unfold in your own divine timing.

Why do we pressure ourselves to go faster, always faster? Missing all the beauty on the way, bc there is ‘no time’ for simple observation.
Let’s change that.

Let’s take a little moment to just observe all the beauty that is, right here, right now. And to tune in with our own deeper layers, checking in everybody still feels safe and cared for, and if not; how can we change that.

This, my darling, is called loving ownership.

Thrive at your own divine timing, following your souls purpose and invitations.

With great Love,

An-Sofie

True empathy has become a rare thing.

When we listen to someone, we tend to immediately think of a response, an advise or our own stories as references. But true empathy asks something entirely different from us.

It requires us to listen, REALLY LISTEN to the other person. WITHOUT mixing in our own stories or feeling.

Just staying with the other person, 100%, is a skill we seem to have lost in our society. But, oh man, is it a deeply healing one. For both parties. The one speaking is recieving the gift of being fully seen and heard (a basic need we all have) without any for of judgement. Space is created for them to fully express what is alive in them. (And very often, when this is done, the answers and solutions will bubble up from within when doing this correctly.)

The listener is recieving the gift of true insight and new perspectives. And is released of the task to ‘fix’ anything. So no more heavy burden, just an open invitation to ‘hold the space’ in which the other can feel seen, heard and heal themselves. In a space free of judgement, filled with pure loving attention. Not alone. Together.

Have you ever experienced true empathy? How did it feel to you?

Have you ever offered true empathy? How did you experience this?

Share in the comments below! 👇

With great love,

An-Sofie