Birgit Patenall - Counselling

Forgiveness is such a big and complex issue.

People who have been wronged by another person usually experience feelings of hurt, anger, sadness, disappointment or shame, just to name a few.

Well meaning friends or family might suggest they should forgive the person who hurt them. They are not forgiving for the other person’s sake, but their own, they are told. It’s best forgive so they can let go of their pain and move on.

But it’s not that easy is it.

What if the person feels so upset by what happened that they just can’t forgive or let it go, even if they agree it might be good for them.

The emotions are so deep, the issue unresolved and forgiveness just isn’t possible, at least not yet.

Before forgiveness is a possibility some healing needs to take place first.

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