Coherence Group

Do you know the number one cause of failure to deliver to expectations in work projects?

after years of asking teams to reflect after projects go wrong - inevitably I hear the same thing over and over:

1. we knew, but didn't say
2. they asked, but didn't hear
3. we spoke but weren't understood

The biggest failure in changing course is people's inability or unwillingness to talk honestly to their co workers.

Sadly I see this when I am working with couples and parents in my Counselling practice as well.

There is an epidemic of "politeness" "pleasing" and "careful avoidance" which is blocking people from emerging the real issues. It means that a lot of people work really hard on their projects, marriages and personal lives..... and are working on exactly the wrong problem.

This leads to exhaustion, discontent and disengagement. People start to trade on "hope" instead of action. this is a downward spiral which is hard to pull out of - and often why people end up leaving.

If you really want to jumpstart your relationships start asking yourself how you are creating an environment and a role model for honesty in your own life. Do you invite honesty? Do you speak your mind clearly? Do you know what you REALLY want? Are your thoughts actions and feelings aligned?

This is one of the foundation values to finding fulfilment and happiness in all parts of your life - work and home.

How honest are you being in your life? and what blocks you going "next level"?

How did you sleep?

when it's a sleepless night, isn't it just the worst .... like the next day its copeable, but in the moment when you want to sleep and you cant... oh it's unbearable.

the nights I toss and turn. not even with stuff on my mind. nope.

just - awake. arrrggghh.

How do you manage a sleepless night?

Ive learned not to panic. i know when I'm flying red eyes I don't sleep much and i still cope ... so i just don't panic. and put on a podcast i really want to listen to. the wanting to listen for some reason puts me to sleep almost every time. lol. why?

Sometimes its just a build up of energy in the body, or emotions and - just like a pool - we need a bit of a clean out - so we can get back to restful sleep again. Then I know i need to start paying attention to a whole lot of things to just set me up for a more relaxed body and mind overall.

Healing the emotions can really help to reset the nervous system, ready to relax - hit me up in the DM's if you want to know more about how i do that for clients :)

Not that many people would guess this, but i have had anxiety, panic attacks and social anxiety on and off since i was a teenager.

this means i have had to learn a lot of ways of resolving those feelings - in the moment - so i can continue to perform.

nothing like having a panic attack in front of hundreds of people!!

some of this has been due to my physical health and ways my body works, some has been emotional build ups, some has been a crisis of the spirit = "the long dark teatime of the soul", as Douglas Adams puts it.

the thing is this.

you CAN learn your way out of the automatic responses.
old emotions and hurts can get stuck in the mind and body, and a combination of therapy and healing can get amazing results.

reducing anxiety can take years - and sometimes, it can be instant. it all depends on
- the source of the anxiety
- your willingness to explore it
- your desire to change things
- your capacity to accept that you CAN cope with life, you may just need a few different strategies.

My favourite one is the heartmath quick coherence technique, but i have a little video with that on and a few others - hit me up in the comments/DM's if you want a copy and I'll throw you a link. :)

how have you managed your anxiety when it hits? I know Im not the only one - throw your comments down below - and share your top "in the moment" methods to get back to calm, fast.