Virtues Rekindled

Some men aren't for you.

They don't want to love you properly at all, but at the same time they don't want to let you go.
The more you give to them, the less they unfortunately appreciate, and the minute you've had enough and decide to walk away is when they are ready to love you and treat you right.
So you decide to give them a chance in the hopes they've changed only to realize they only changed for a very short period of time.
You finally find the strength to walk away and here he comes again, proclaiming his love for you.
What a lot of people don't understand is that if a man shows anger and persistence to get you back once you try to break it off isn't proof of love at all.
A man trying to flatter you or making weak attempts to be "nicer" for a couple weeks isn't proof that he's trying, its proof that he knows you well enough to know how to defuse you long enough to hook you once again.
Lets put it this way....
If you take a childs toy away from them, the child begins to cry.
Same goes for the relationship... If you take away a relationship of convenience, a man begins to cry. Just because he cries doesn't mean you give him what he wants.
Stop listening to what your man keeps promising you and start watching what his actions keep telling you.
A lot of women don't know what its like to be loved by a real man.
You know lust, you know joy, you know passion and you know the fear of abandonment.
Stop chasing your idea of what love should be and recognize what love actually is.
Love isn't promising to act right after he gets caught screwing up time and time again.
Love is him acting right from the very beginning because he doesn't want to lose you because he knows how truly special you are.
Love isn't telling your grown man he needs to change so he can keep you, love is a grown man changing on his own because he cant imagine life without you.
So take my advice and choose to be loved properly and always no matter what..... remember your worth.

Happy women's day

Many men make the mistake of thinking that women think like them.

Please take note of this:

A woman is wired differently. Yes, a woman knows that you love her, but just because you told her two days ago doesn't mean that she doesn't want to hear it again today.

Most women want to hear "I love you" every day as a daily assurance that you keep choosing to love her everyday. No, it's not being insecure, it's just the way she is wired by the Creator.

Pls Men let's tolerate this it's natural🙏🙏

DO NOT TRY TO IMPRESS HIS OR HER PARENTS BY ALL MEANS.

Be yourself.
Remain yourself.

If they don't call your name in the conversation remain cool and mind your business.

If they don't call you to the kitchen keep your cool and mind your business.

Best you can do is to simply ask if you can help.

Many of these things are often misinterpreted as desperation by our inlaws.

Keep a good countenance, let your expression be accessible, such that one can nicely ask you to come hold the door or set the table.

Let your partner be your driver in that house. He or she should be signalling you on what to do and where to come in. Don't jump into places you are not called.

I repeat, let your language be "can I help with anything?" "How can I help?"

Then keep your cool.

Every model family knows you are a guest, and should treat you as such.

if my inlaw is sweeping the house should I collect the broom? Yes! If your mother was sweeping do you cross your legs?

Offer to help, and let her decision be final.

If she says yes then good. If she insist on doing it herself it's also good, but don't feel comfortable going back to the movie you were watching, just keep an eye on her sweeping and help with moving the table, etc.

Some of you even ,your minds, you will carry your legs up for your mother inlaw to sweep under. fear God!!!

Men!!! Don't go to your inlaws the first time and start showing off your have money.

Everything you want to order, you want to pay, you want to give.

Relax, they don't behave like that.

Some parents might not see your good heart, that's if it's good and you're not just trying to show up to impress.

Some parents will misinterprete it to be mocking their family.

Imagine you giving them money to buy vegetables when you just overhead someone saying there is no vegetable.That's disrespectful to their family.

Nobody sent you to go there and buy them veggies. If it's your 4th time we can understand, you are a part of the family now, not on your first few visits.

Don't go splashing money! I warn you now! Before they turn you to BOZ