Reset With Renee

When you are asked for time, energy, support, presence, or connection, what happens to you?

I bet it “depends” on your capacity…

Like many & I have had a lifelong struggle with meeting my desires, honoring my capacity, & creating or maintaining connections with others.

My most high valued relationships tend to be with “chosen ones” – people I immediately felt connection with & who demonstrated safety & trust from “go.”

Historically, my clients & my partner get the best of my energy & time; others get a metered-out amount. I wish it were different & maybe it will be one day?

Ironically, this post is in response to a DM from a follower, wondering where I have been😉

In truth, I have been slowing down the pace of “output” across all the platforms I regularly or “sometimes” use. Not because I don’t WANT to connect, but because I know I need to restructure my time and/or get help to be able to “do all the things.”

Lately, I have been leaning into:
• Less “have to,” “ought to,” “should,” & “what if’s”
• Less forcing, pushing, efforting
• More allowing, pivoting, slowing down

I still carry the messages of our society ( ) AND I am noticing what feels good, gives energy rather than depletes, & trusting that WHO is for me & with me will be here when I have more or resources.

-->Can you relate to the struggle of not knowing when you will have a high-capacity day or low-capacity day?
-->Do you worry about the impact of your capacity on your connections & relationships?
-->Do requests or demands sometimes or often register as a threat to your nervous system?

These are the types of things I discuss regularly in my 1:1 sessions as well as in the 90 Day Relationship Reset Program. In fact, next week we will discuss energy givers/takers!

Want to deep dive & discuss?

Let’s explore together. Email me to get started!

Relational ambivalence can last a long time, at least until there is a crisis big enough to upset the status quo.

My advice if you find yourself in this situation:

1) Create safety internally first. Stop self-sacrificing & self-abandoning.

2) Raise the standard.
You can’t go back to what was; that didn’t work.

You need to RESET your relationship agreements & that will mean dealing with discomfort & differences.

3) Get support for the journey.

This change will invite you to work internally & externally at the same time.

Meanwhile you will need to adult across your roles & responsibilities. It can be a lot.

A plan & context for change can significantly reduce overwhelm & shorten the learning curve.

If now is the time for you to Reset Your Relationship, reach out to join the 90 Day group coaching program.

Email Renee NOW to get started: [email protected]

When you no longer need to EXPLAIN or CONVINCE OTHERS to validate your limits you are hitting a MAJOR healing MILESTONE!

Boundaries are for Beginners:

PEOPLE PLEASERS in early recovery know what they want to STOP experiencing in relationships.

People Pleasers struggle to find the words to convey their limits:
WHAT they want to experience (or no longer experience).

Their energy is more TRY & than DO --> getting hung up on getting “buy in”.

A client used to WASTE ENERGY describing what needed to be in place for them to re-engage their family of origin.

The CHANGE they made was getting clear for themselves WHEN they were able to stay present & loving & WHAT the client would do when that was no longer true.

“I love you guys but it hurts my heart to stay here & watch you hurt Mom (or Dad) like that.”

This is exactly what we do inside my offer:

The 90 Day Relationship Reset.

We STOP making you or others the bad guy & stop calling out bad behavior.

We help you decide WHAT you are available for & WHEN.

Sign up for the workshop where I’ll show you how to reclaim your personal power & set yourself free, step by step.

Stop “trying” & start DOING;)!
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My Clients Superpowers
Amazing As They Are
Can Become Their Kryptonite!

-- Seekers, Deep Feelers, Thinkers
-- Hold A High Standard
-- See Potential & Patterns
-- Give Benefit of the Doubt

THEIR RESET:
Knowing HOW & WHEN
to use their superpowers
AS WELL AS WHEN NOT TO.

Know Your Kryptonite!

Take your first step by joining us for a free Master Class on February 12th: 9 Steps to Your Relationship Reset.

See HOW the 9 Steps of the Relationship Reset help you:

• Ditch Doubt for Clarity
• Choose Courageously Despite Discomfort
• Commit to Growth versus Staying Stuck

Register to receive the Zoom Meeting Link:

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Or secure your spot in the 90 Day Group Coaching Offer (space is limited to 10) & enjoy Early Bird Benefits;)!

Learn More:
https://resetwithrenee.com/relationship-reset

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We kick off the program on February 24th!
Be the HERO in YOUR STORY!