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I've been feeling particularly tender in the last week. Before bed last night, I felt a heaviness in my chest that I recognized as grief. This morning, a client shared this article with me. It helped me name the ache I have been experiencing. Maybe you are feeling some of the grief from the last year, too? You are not alone.

It’s OK to Grieve for the Small Losses of a Lost Year There is a name for grief that isn’t routinely acknowledged: disenfranchised grief.

1. APPRECIATION: While there were sad and frustrating experiences during social distancing, there were also changes that people welcomed. Take the time to appreciate lessons learned and positive experiences. Many people found aspects of the structural changes to be beneficial. Acknowledge and appreciate!

2. CLARITY: Some people report a sense of clarity discovered through the changes experienced in 2020/2021. Many folks found that new constraints allowed them to make decisions faster or have a stronger "knowing" about what they valued. Reflect and discover what matters most to you and how to thoughtfully take actions based on your inner compass.

3. BOUNDARIES: Empowered with appreciation and clarity, people are noticing where they need to set and hold boundaries around their time, energy and wellness. As the usual structures shifted, new opportunities to create centered and grounded decisions arose. Explore ways to honor schedules, plans and practices that have long-term benefits.

4. PACING: As a global society, we just spent a year in a "new normal" and it took months to adjust. It will take months to re-adjust to increased social interaction. Not everyone will move at the same pace. Check in with yourself about how quickly to move and when to take breaks.

5. DIGNITY: Collectively, we have experienced a major shake-up to the ways we live. It will take some time for us to recover as individuals and as a group. Honor your own dignity and the human dignity of others as we all find our way back to a more socially integrated society.

Self-compassion is different than self-care. while both are important, self-compassion is about the inner dialogue you are listening to in your own head and how you feel about yourself as a result. Yes! Self-care is important but it is not the same as learning to turn to your inner critic with a clam and assertive boundary about the negative messages it is telling you.

I'm very excited to share SELF The Vast World Beyond Your Words. Ten years ago, Joel and I were walking around the Palace of Fine Arts and he told me he wanted to write a book. Joel had been a mentor and friend for a while and in that moment, I welled with emotion. I knew deep down that if his teachings and support could be put into pages, the gifts he had shared with me and his clients would be shared around the globe. After 40 years of coaching Joel and his wife Judy have put together an easy to read, fun and profoundly moving book. I've ready read it twice so far. It just gets better. I cannot recommend it enough.

In the coming weeks, I will also let you know about "book clubs" and webinars related to the book. Stay tuned!

https://www.amazon.com/Self-Vast-World-Beyond-Words/dp/0999832506/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1536780801&sr=8-1&keywords=Self+the+vast+world+beyond+your+words