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THE STEPMOM TAX YOUR BODY PAYS 👇

You stopped noticing it a long time ago, but your body never did.

The shoulders up by your ears.
The breath you hold when you hear the door.
The way you read the room before you've even walked into it.

You're a stepmom whose body has been on alert for so long that bracing started to feel like resting.

The role of stepmom doesn't just take your time and your patience.
It lives in your body.
The tension becomes your baseline, and you forget there was ever another way to sit in your own home.

Here's how I know.
The first time I was somewhere I didn't have to brace, my shoulders dropped two full inches and I almost cried because I hadn't felt them relaxin years.

You can't think your way out of bracing. You have to be somewhere safe enough to stop.

Part 3 of 4.
One more coming. Follow so you don't miss it.
That's what the Stepmom Retreat is.

🌴 Ready to put it down for a few days? Join me for three days in November in a house on the water in Siesta Key. Ten stepmoms, and your body finally standing down. www.stepfamilycircle.com/retreat

👉 And save this for the next time you notice your shoulders up by your ears.

WHO’S HOLDING THE STEPMOM WHO HOLDS EVERYONE ELSE? 👇

You hold the schedule of soccer practices and dance rehearsals.
You catch things before they becomes a problem.
You keep everyone steady.
You’re the "strong one" holding everyone else's needs.

And being the strong one becomes so automatic that nobody thinks to check on you.
Including you.

So when someone actually asks what you need, you go blank.
Not because you don’t need anything but because you’re so used to not asking.

That’s the stepmom tax.
The cost of being the one who holds it all and never gets held back.

I paid it for years before I let myself be in a room where, for three days, I didn’t have to hold anything.
And I realized what putting myself first with people who understood me could feel like.

That’s what the Stepmom Retreat is.
Three days in November, a house on the water in Siesta Key, ten stepmoms.
And you’re not running it, fixing it, or holding it.
You’re the one being taken care of.

You spend every day being the strong one.
You’re allowed three days where someone holds you for a change.

Part 1 of 4 of the Stepmom Tax, Part 2 coming tomorrow.

If you're ready to give up being strong for a few days, here's how you can claim your seat: https://stepfamilycircle.com/retreat
And you can finally stop going blank when someone asks what you need.