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You Are Not the Hat You Are Wearing: Leading and Living from Who You Actually Are

Monday, March 23, 2026

After more than two decades of walking this journey of life alongside leaders and everyday people trying to do right by God and by others, one of the most costly mistakes I have seen is this: people confuse what they are doing with who they are.

You wear a hat. You are not a hat.

Think about the words we use to describe our internal states. Hurry. Panic. Frenzy. Funk. Slump. Tailspin. We say things like "I am in a rut" or "I am overwhelmed" as if those states are permanent addresses instead of temporary weather. And notice something worth sitting with: almost every one of those words is negative. Nobody walks around saying "I am in a joy" or "I am in a peace." We reserve that kind of ownership language almost exclusively for the hard seasons.

Here is what I want to say to every leader and every person walking this journey of life today: you are not trapped inside whatever hat you happen to be wearing right now. Hurrying is something you are doing, not something you are. Stressed is something you are experiencing, not something you are. The moment you start treating those states as containers you cannot escape, you hand over your agency, your choices, and your ability to lead well.

This is where identity and servant leadership intersect in a powerful way. When you know who you are at your core, when your foundation is not built on your title, your track record, or the approval of people around you, you are free to choose a different verb. You can step back, take the hat off, and decide how you want to show up for the people who are counting on you. That is personal development. That is leadership growth. That is what it looks like to live and lead from the inside out rather than the outside in.

The most altruistic leaders I have known are also the most self-aware. They have done the hard work of separating who they are from what they are going through. That inner clarity is what allows them to be fully present with the people in front of them, patient in difficult seasons without giving a deadline for when things need to change, and genuinely generous even when their own circumstances are not comfortable.

The essential truth about a hat is this: it is easy to take off. Your state is not your identity. Your momentary condition does not define your character or your calling. You have the agency to choose what comes next. So today, before you announce to yourself or anyone else that you are stuck, overwhelmed, or lost in a tailspin, ask a better question. What hat am I wearing right now? And is it serving me and the people I am called to lead?

Take the hat off. Lead well. Live life well. Keep walking.


CE Christians

Appreciation Advantage: How Servant Leaders Build Teams That Rise Together

March 20, 2026

Arrogance is thinking something is perfect after the first draft. Humility is knowing there is always room to improve. That truth shapes how I think about one of the most underused tools in leadership: genuine, expressed appreciation.

After more than twenty years walking alongside leaders and teams, I am convinced most teams are not struggling because of a lack of talent. They are struggling because of a gap in culture. And one of the fastest ways to rebuild it is simpler than most expect. It starts with what you say, how you say it, and who hears you say it.

Appreciation Does More Than You Think

When you genuinely appreciate someone and communicate it, something powerful happens. That person rises in their own mind. And here is what many leaders miss: the people who witness it rise too.

They see a leader who notices.
They see a culture where people matter.
They decide they want to be part of it.

This is not flattery. It is honest, consistent encouragement. The difference between a good team and a great one is often found in a simple moment when a leader says, “I see what you are doing, and it matters.”

Resilient Teams Are Built Daily

Every team hits a wall. The ones that grow stronger are rarely the most resourced. They are the most connected.

That connection is built quietly, over time, through small acts of appreciation. When you recognize someone publicly, you are reinforcing that people are valued and that showing up fully matters.

You Can Create This Culture

When leaders consistently speak highly of others, to them and about them, something shifts. People begin to do the same.

Momentum builds.
Trust deepens.
Teams carry one another.

Appreciation multiplies. It builds what no strategy session or performance review can manufacture.

Today’s Challenge

Take an honest look at your team. Is appreciation consistent?

If not, you do not need a new program. Start with one person today. Speak highly of them, to them and about them. Privately. Publicly. In writing.

Watch what happens.

Humility knows there is always room to grow. Servant leadership shows the way. And genuine appreciation is one of the most powerful, altruistic gifts you can give the people walking this journey with you.

Lead well. Live life well. And make sure the people around you know they are valued.

Praying Beyond Yourself: The Leadership Practice Most People Overlook

March 11, 2026

There is a moment in every leader’s journey when the weight of responsibility shifts. It stops being about what you can accomplish and starts being about what you can give away. That shift does not happen overnight. For most of us, it takes years of hard lessons, quiet failures, and enough success to realize that success alone was never the point.

I have been walking this journey of life in business and leadership for over twenty years, and the single most underrated leadership practice I have ever encountered is this: praying consistently and intentionally for the people you lead, before you need anything from them.
Not crisis prayer. Not reactive prayer. Proactive, others-focused intercession as a daily discipline.
Here is why this matters beyond the spiritual dimension. When you make it a habit to genuinely invest in the wellbeing of the people around you, something changes in how you see them. You stop managing people and start serving them. You stop tolerating their limitations and start believing in their potential. That posture is the foundation of servant leadership, and it produces results that no management framework or productivity system can manufacture.

Now here is where it gets interesting, and where Seth Godin’s thinking on infinity actually connects to leadership in a way most people miss.
Capitalism is built on the up-ramp of infinity. More customers, more revenue, more growth. That ratchet keeps turning and the culture rewards it. But too often, the pursuit of more quietly erodes the things that matter most. More becomes the metric, and people become resources rather than human beings worth fighting for.

Altruistic leadership runs on a completely different operating system.

It is not chasing more for yourself. It is asking daily, who needs more of what I have been given to give? That is a different kind of infinity, one measured not in market share but in lives genuinely impacted, in leaders developed, in people who walked away from your presence believing they could do more than they thought possible.
And here is the tension worth sitting with. When we push for growth in others, whether in our organizations, our families, or our communities, the instinct is often to highlight what is missing, to point out what is not good enough yet. But that approach rarely produces the breakthroughs we are hoping for. Real growth happens when people feel enrolled in a journey, not condemned by their current position on it. The best coaches understand this. The best leaders live it.

There is an edge in every arena worth competing in. Athletes and coaches study film, study the professionals, and put in hours of practice specifically to find those edges, the spaces where skill and preparation open up new possibilities that average effort cannot reach. The same principle applies to leadership and personal development. You have to be willing to go deeper than the surface level habits. Reading the books, attending the conferences, having the right conversations. You have to do the inner work that most people avoid because it is uncomfortable.

That inner work is what separates leaders who are impressive from leaders who are transformational.

The most powerful thing you will do today is not close a deal, finish a project, or nail a presentation. It might be the moment you pause and genuinely ask, who in my world needs me to believe in them right now? Who needs me to stand in their corner even when they cannot see their own potential?
That is the altruistic life. That is the life and leadership worth building.

You have 86,400 seconds today. Spend some of them on someone else. You will not regret it.