Merge+Flow

In 2020, I began a journey of healing with . While I was originally there to figure my own s**t out after a 24-year marriage, and a two-year relationship that ended abruptly, I soon realized there was much more in store for me. I stayed another year and trained with my mentor to become a relationship coach for individuals. When that ended, I felt like there was more training I needed to do, so I spent another year training to become certified to coach couples. Wow, what an education. I wasn’t expecting to become a better partner myself during this training. But it makes sense that when we learn new skills, and we implement them into our respective lives, that everyone that we are in relationship with benefits from this new version of ourselves. I am grateful for the education I’ve received. I now see relationships vastly different from the conditioning I received since I was young. They are challenging for sure and they require daily care and tending to. But damn, are they a container for connection, growth, and healing. I would love to help you with any relationship challenges you may be facing currently. You can schedule a connection call with me at the link in my bio.

My biological mother tried to take her own life when I was two years old.

Two years ago, my brother and I traveled to North Dakota to reconnect with kin who we hadn’t seen in decades. We both got to hear stories about how on our respective birthdays, our mother would call her siblings and lament over the guilt she had giving us up for adoption to the mother that raised us. I got to hear firsthand stories about her demons, her struggles with addiction, and her mental health that plagued much of her life. But I also got to hear about the LOVE and care that she had for her two boys. Needless to say, I came home with a s**t-ton of empathy for the wounded woman from whom I inherited my Mother Wound.

That sacrifice—as hard as it was on everyone—came from a place of LOVE.

And I believe that ultimately, the experiences we have that come from a place of pure LOVE, are the most beneficial to our growth and development.