Wake-In

“Mom! Can you come here?!”

I genuinely don’t know how many times I asked her that.

And while I may not have gotten the answer in that moment or the one I wanted, my mom has done her best to be there for me in the ways she could.

She still does.

It took me a long time to realize that our parents are not automatically heroes or villains. They are humans who have been around the planet longer and they are doing their best with what they have to keep you on the planet longer too. I’m very grateful to have the privilege of being raised by parents who love me and are both alive.

Parents and their children don’t have a fantasy relationship where everything feels perfect all the time. They help shape us into who we are in ways which are at the core.

There are a lot of aspects of our dynamic which haven’t been easy, and yet we both show up to navigate what life brings us.

I get some amazing traits from my mother and sure, we are both Aries (only a few days apart), which helps. Today, I find myself less focused on what’s different or what we have most in common. I’m simply grateful. Grateful to be here and grateful we choose each other.

It hasn’t been a Disney movie. That has not been our story and it’s a story I was upset not to have for a long time. With all we have both been through, I’m grateful for the story we have at all.

We test each other and we make each other grow. We can push every button and we can make things feel better.

I’m the eldest of three and I’m at an age now where my resilience meets mortality quite a bit. I’m really grateful for each of these moments we can spend together.

Those of us who were here joined to enjoy brunch from her favorite place and I provided her and my dad a Reiki-Infused Sound Bath.

I used to desire to feel seen by my my mom, as all kids do, and now I desire to show her who I am.

Thank you for all of the moments where you dropped whatever it was to be there for me. Each time you have has helped me to be who I am now. ILYU🥰

Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms and maternal figures here and those in spirit.🙏💚🫂

Have you ever experienced grief before there’s someone or something to grieve?

Before the end and possibly right from the start?

Instead of being present and enjoying your favorite moments with that person or the height of an exciting experience, you’re feeling …

Depressed
Overwhelmed
Overstimulated
Exhausted

Because you have a consistent reminder that one day this person won’t hear here or that amazing experience will end.

That’s anticipatory grief and for neurodivergent people like us - this is super common.

Today and for the following two Thursday’s, myself and my co-host of “Getting Intimate With Intimacy”, .jayne.86 will be Co-Teaching on Insight Timer to discuss and support anyone who resonates. Our first event is our Introduction for Tips For Neurodivergent People To Deepen Intimacy Through Anticipatory Grief. We’re going spend the next two diving deeper into our findings and feelings, and then integrating from the experience.

Tune in at 12 pm pst/2 pm cst/3 pm est/8 pm uk/9 pm cet.

Join us here: https://insig.ht/e/9nowwhsMD1b

Rory Memorial

He was unconditionally loving and non-judgemental.

He was silly when a laugh was needed.

He was affectionate whenever I needed a hug.

He was passionate and ambitious about his desires.

He was an excellent communicator, always expressing very clearly what he desired.

He was clever and charming in the way he got away with every mischievous endeavor.

He was adorable and a unique character.

Our animal children are the best of companionship and expressions of the pure nature of love, and nurturing that is possible. They are always in our corner. They are family. They are a remarkable gift.

Rory helped me transform into who I am now and will continue to influence who I will become. His transition from this plane has left myself and others devastated.

As I shared the original memorial post for Rory, I was reminded of many things, including what it feels like to mourn a furchild, as I have done it once before with Popcorn. I was reminded of how isolating and challenging this grief journey can be. While I had time to prepare for the day, I still have felt unprepared for this experience. I knew I was going to be needing more support and more of something to bring me closure, and enough healing to continue forward with my purpose, which is what I promised him I am going to do. After receiving both warm saddened responses from Rory lovers around the world, and information of transitions of other animal children far and wide, I decided that I wanted to do a virtual memorial to celebrate Rory and honor this grieving process for all who need it right now.

So whether you knew Rory in-person, from my content and Zoom calls, or are grieving animal children you love, please join us for Rory’s Memorial: A Celebration Of Life & Healing Experience. He would love it and I am confident both Rory and your animal children will be with us for this experience.

Event Program:

1. Jamie opening remarks
2. Rory’s story
3. Share your favorite Rory story or post
4. Rory video
5. Grief Recovery Sound Bath
6. Jamie’s closing remarks

Join us: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iTxl5xnr0M4