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AITAH for snapping at my MIL and telling her we don’t need her money?

I’m pregnant with twins and I’ve just entered my final trimester. Since telling my in-laws we were expecting my MIL has been begging to be in the delivery room to watch me give birth because she hasn’t had the opportunity to watch any of her grandchildren be born, she told me since twins aren’t common in my husband’s family but are in mine, my mother shouldn’t be in the delivery room…she should. My husband and I have told her no countless times and she acts like she understands then she brings it up again.

During a family dinner party MIL cornered me and told me she’s bought a new phone so that I can call her when I’m in labour. I told her that was nice but I won’t be doing that and she’ll meet the twins when they’re 6 weeks like everyone else. MIL said “I’m not like everyone else, everyone else didn’t make the twins an £xamount trust, everyone else didn’t volunteer to send the twins to private school etc”. We never asked her to do any of these things! We’re perfectly capable of taking care of our children without her help. She then told me if she’s not in the delivery room then we’re not getting a cent from her. Finally (because of my crazy hormones and her audacity) I snapped at her and told her we don’t need her money and she’s twisted if she thinks we’ll let her do what she wants because she has money. I told her she’s not the twins mum and she should stay in a grandparents place. I firmly told her she’s not coming to watch me give birth, if she tries to come...

AITAH for sticking to my boundaries after my mom threw a drink at my wife?

Two years ago when I was planning my wedding with my wife, my mom just hurled a drink across the table during a fancy birthday dinner while my poor wife was all dressed up. I cannot tell you how shocking it was as my mom is someone who never even raised her voice, never ever caused a scene. Even my mom looked shocked and my wife of course dissolved into tears.

She was going through a divorce which is the only thing I can even think would trigger it, but it was so out of left field and ruined my wife's 21st birthday. I told her she couldn't come to our wedding and I didn't know how long it would take me to forgive her. She understood though I got a lot of pushback from her parents.

After the wedding my mom told me it was a combination of things. We were getting married on her 40th birthday (it was the only date that venue was available and we had apologized) and she wasn't as ok with it as she was pretending to be, so seeing my wife get a nice birthday triggered her. She was upset about having to see my dad and his mistress but not being able to bring a date (limited budget), and she was mad about being asked to help make centerpieces. She even threw in a whiny "nothing is ever about me"

I told her I understood but throwing a drink (red wine no less) was still not ok and my wife obviously needs time to forgive her. She was not invited to the wedding and we aren't no contact, but she hasn't been to our...

AITAH for sleeping with someone less than a week after the end of a 15 year relationship?

So, my husband broke up with me last Tuesday, after being together for 15 years. He also made me homeless. The last year really, but especially the past two months, have been an absolute nightmare. It was emotional torture and it hurts more than I can put into words.

I wrote on Facebook about becoming single and homeless, and less than a couple of hours later I got a message from an old boyfriend. We had been together when I 15, and now, 20 years later, we went on a not-quite-a-date walk through the park. After I got back to my mom’s place, which is where I’m staying right now, he started flirting more and we got a bit naughty over text. There’s a chance that it might lead to some NSFW activities, and it just feels weird. Like I’m doing something wrong.

I know I don’t owe my husband any loyalty at this point, but I can’t shake that feeling that having s__ with this other guy would make me an AH. Would it be?

There’s more details about the break up on my profile, and there’s definitely no chance of reconciliation.

AITA for publicly calling my husband a controlling creep who is jealous of his own son?

My husband ,Steve, (45) and I (36) are currently in a pretty bad place in our relationship but yesterday was just to much.

Steve was always the jealous type. It was kinda cute at the beginning but it got worse over time. Everytime I talk to a man I get questioned and insulted by him. This is one of many reasons why our marriage is in danger.

Yesterday we had a little pre Christmas dinner for steve’s parents and his brother and his wife. They are spending xmas with his brothers wife’s family. I decided to wear a cute sleeveless dress for the dinner. When steve saw me dressed he started his questioning again. Why do you wear this revealing dress? Who do you want to impress? He only closed his mouth when the guests arrived.

When our son Jim (14) came down to welcome them he approached me afterwards. He said ,you look beautiful mom, and gave me a kiss on the forehead and a quick hug.
Jim is normally not the affectionate, cuddly type so these moments are always rare and precious for me. It was a beautiful moment between mother and son. Steve twisted his mouth when he saw this.

When I entered the kitchen, Steve started berating me. ,,you’re starting early today with this s__t,, ,,you like the younger version better huh? Will you hit on my brother too? Although I was disgusted by this talk I tried to ignore him but he got louder and louder. It was emotional t__ror. When I finally told him to shut the f up he started to full on yell at me. I tried to escape him by leaving the...

AITA for telling my ex-husband's mother he was lying about our divorce?

Me (38F) and my ex (37M) got divorced about 3 years ago. We have 2 children (9M and 4M) who we share custody of.

The divorce was caused by two things. Me finding him in our bed with another woman, and the fact that his reaction upon me kicking her out and getting upset with him was to pick up our nightstand lamp and try to hit me over the head with it. During the divorce there was a stalking problem I'm not going to get into, and we ended up getting court mandated counseling when it started clearly affecting our sons.

Counseling ended up helping, and after the mandated period was over he decided to find a therapist closer to his home and set up regular sessions.

We spend holidays together so our sons can have their entire family around, so with Thanksgiving coming up we all get together and decide to host at my house.

While our kids are out getting some quality grandparent time with my parents, me, my brother, Ex, and MiL are sitting around and chatting to relax a bit and the conversation turns from the holiday season to our sons and to our divorce.

My MiL mentions that it's nice seeing us still being civil instead of at eachothers throats, and Ex mentions that talking about it helped.

I initially think he's talking about therapy, as I'm sure anyone would, but then he starts talking about it further. According to him, we just didn't mesh well together as spouses and we both grew miserable in the relationship. When he saw it was upsetting our sons he took it upon himself to start the...

AITAH for telling my Mom I won’t give her my Dad’s SSN

Long story short:

My Dad just died. They have been divorced for over 30 years. She said she needs it to “remove him as beneficiary” and to “take care of [her] affairs” on her life insurance/trust/etc.

I told her no and it’s f__king weird to ask me for it because she doesn’t need it. I told her to go buy a copy of the death certificate if she wants it.

She got really upset I wouldn’t just give it to her and kept calling me “weird” and “stop being silly just give it to me”.

I don’t know. This whole f__king situation just sucks.

EDIT(x2):

Thanks for the comments guys I truly wasn’t sure. I appreciate the feedback. I’m calling all the credit bureaus and SS on Monday to confirm they received notice of his death(the funeral home did say they contacted them but I will make sure).

From the comments I learned a lot. Thank you all very much for the great advice. They were married less than 10 years and she is under 60 so she doesn’t qualify for SS survivors benefits.

This entire situation just has been s__t and I miss my Dad more than anything. I just want this to all be over so I can move on and take my Dad’s ashes to visit his family out west. I’m just so sad and disappointed. Anyway thanks for everything guys. The kind words and advice means a lot to me. Strangers have been more supportive than those around me. 💙

AITAH for being happy that my cheating ex was used

So we're mid thirties, together for ages, two kids, mortgaged up to the gills etc.

I have come to understand that my wife cheated on me about 18 months ago. It was apparently a spontaneous h__kup but they stayed in touch and met up pretty often.

I was utterly clueless about all this until i found some receipts in her car. (I mean literal receipts from locations she'd been with him)

Obviously this wasn't a smoking gun but it made me suspicious enough that i probed at some other cracks in our relationship and eventually she confessed but she emphasised that it was not an affair but an actual relationship and that he was planing to leave his wife etc. to be with her.

Things ended between us and have been messy since, but nothing seems to have materialised with her new man. And I have it on fairly good authority that he dumped her as soon as he found out we'd split up. Apparently he is not even married and he was just stringing my wife along.

Definitely feeling strong schadenfreude

AITA for considering divorce after what I heard my husband say last night?

34f and I have been with my husband for 5 years. I have 2 children from my previous marriage (13yo boy and 10yo girl). He has a daughter from his previous relationship, age 7. Things have not been okay recently. As my son hit puberty he started pushing boundaries and my husband has just been a d__k, to put it bluntly. Like if my son asks to do something, he usually says no, and when he asks 'why', my husband gets pi**ed off. Claiming my son is "disrespecting" him. Claiming he is entitled. This has been going on since my son turned 13 a month and a half ago. And to paint a picture, my son really doesn't do much wrong outside of asking a bunch of questions. But to paint a bigger picture, my daughter asks 30x more questions than my son does and my husband doesn't treat her the way he treats my son. So, it's caused fights between us. I've told him I will leave if s__t doesn't change and he drops the attitude. And honestly, he DID get better. But I realized last night that he only got better at home and was s__t talking my son outside of the home.

Basically, we were invited to one of my husbands friends houses for a BBQ last night. His buddy told me kids they could go ride their electric scooters around and the s__t talking started almost immediately as my kids were out of ear shot. I was standing a good 20 feet away from my husband and his buddies but I openly heard them saying that my son was a "d__k head" and was going to cause my daughter to...

AITA for not letting my husband "support" me through surgery?

I recently had minor outpatient surgery. In my spouse's family, any time anyone goes to the hospital for anything, they consider it their duty to set up a vigil in the waiting room. In my family, filled with nurses, we think that family presence is unnecessary and a burden on hospital staff. Unless you're LITERALLY dying, we'll be at home waiting for the call to pick you up.

Anyway. I went back for surgery prep and shooed my husband away at the door. I told him I was all good and would see him in a few hours. When he started to protest, I said, "Gee, babe? What're you gonna do? Hand the doctor the scalpel?" I thought it was funny. The nurse laughed, too, and we both shooed him away.

Surgery was fine. I was nice and drugged up and delighted to see my husband when he came to get me. Now I'm recovering, but he has been distant and pissy. He told me I was cold, didn't take his feelings into account, and that he would have liked to "support" me. And that I have no right to ask for support now when I wouldn't accept it earlier.

It's true; I do want support now. I need some help getting around, making food, getting dressed. etc. I did not need his help when I was unconscious, but I guess I can see why he might be feeling rejected?

AITA?

EDIT: For people who seem confused, I did not kick my husband out of the waiting room. I disinvited him from joining me in the surgery prep room, where I'd be changing into a gown and having various tubes...

AITA for not wanting to spend another 5-hour Christmas dinner with my boyfriend’s family?

So, we're just leaving my BF's parents house after Christmas dinner and I got in a bit of a fight with him because I said I don't want to eat Christmas dinner with his family again next year.

They're all nice enough people and we all got along just fine, but my problem is literally the pace of the meal. We sat down at the table at 2pm and didn't get up until 7pm!!! There were a bunch of courses and ALOT of time in between each course where I felt trapped and antsy trying to make awkward small talk with everyone at the table. Don't get me wrong, each course was nice food and I complimented his parents on each thing, but each dish felt a little more pretentious than it needed to... And I was just hungry and wanted to eat a MEAL, not just a bunch of small bites until 3.5 hours into dinner when the beef and potatoes finally came out.

Every family gathering I've ever been to before (my family or friends) has had a pretty typical format: show up at invited time, help hosts get dinner ready, put everything out on the table, and everyone sits down at eats it all at once, or maybe dessert comes a little later. Then you're free to get up from the table and go outside or go for a walk or move to a couch to continue socializing with specific people, etc. You get your belly satisfied at once and have a lot of opportunities to have conversations with different people there. At his family meal it was like all of us were just trapped in our chairs for 5...