Aaliyah Carter

Nothing humbles a woman faster than realizing:

The same man who called you “too emotional”
is now crying online because you stopped answering.

Closure hits different when access is denied.

I stopped arguing with my baby daddy.

Started agreeing instead.

“Yes.”
“Okay.”
“You’re right.”

That man got more stressed when I became calm than when I was mad. 😭

Silence really scares people who expected cha

Boundaries don’t scare healthy people.

They scare people
who were benefiting from your lack of them.

Watch how fast someone calls you “cold”
when you stop over-explaining.
Watch how fast they say you’ve “changed”
when you stop tolerating confusion.

Growth feels like betrayal
to people who liked you small.

💭 Did people respect you more — or less — when you stopped explaining yourself?

Not all baby daddies are the problem…
but the ones who disappear and come back like nothing happened?

Yeah… we need to talk about that 😌

One thing I've learned is having a man's child 👶 doesn’t mean he'll care ❤️‍🩹 or respect you 🙅‍♀️. A man can watch you risk your life ⚠️ to bring his child to the world 🌍 and still turn around and do the unthinkable 😔. Being the mother of his child literally holds no value 💔—that realization changes you forever 🔥

Today we pray for the single momma and the momma who does it all alone. Lord, each day she does it all without applause. It seems she holds her family’s world together. She loves and gives and pours out her heart for those who call her momma. She has many roles and wears many hats. Today, Lord, please help her feel seen and loved by You. Send people who hold up her arms when she is must keep going and who will give her moments to rest when she needs to stop. Thank You for being the One who really holds her and her family together. Please hold her heart and fill it with love today. We ask in Jesus’s name, amen.

Co-parenting really teaches you maturity.

Sometimes the person you couldn’t live peacefully with
becomes someone you have to communicate with forever.

Growth looks different when kids are involved.
Who agrees?

My baby daddy really told me:

“You’re hard to deal with.”

But somehow I became easy enough when rent was due, rides were needed, and his phone got cut off.

Funny how peace becomes important after responsibility shows up.