Conversations with Colby

It's not about the guns.

I repeat. It's not about the guns.

Now, don't get me wrong, I don't own a gun myself, and I believe they cause more problems than they solve. I believe in the importance of sensible regulation when it comes to availability of fi****ms. But gun violence and mass shootings are the symptoms of a much deeper disease running rampant through our society, and getting rid of guns isn't the answer to resolving that disease.

If it's not about the guns, though, what is it about? It's about the pain. It's about the pain that drives a person to picking up a gun, and thinking that there's an answer there, that they haven't found elsewhere. A child isn't born wanting to shoot another human being, a child learns to do so because of the world that he or she grows up in. So why, when there is yet another horrifically tragic example of violence in our society, do we, yet again, fail to examine the actual roots of it?

For an answer to that question, we can simply look at how "healthcare" operates in America. Sadly, "healthcare" in America is mostly a reactive industry, attempting to treat or alleviate symptoms on one hand, while at the same time actively perpetuating the underlying diseases. Is it any wonder that the food served in hospitals is directly linked to many of the conditions that patients are suffering from in those very same hospitals?

The same paradox exists in our relationship with the preponderance of mental dis-ease in society. Where are the social media posts asking, "What factors contributed to a child having nowhere better to turn than an act of violence?", or "What sort of a world have we created, where killing our neighbors feels like a less excruciating path than living among them."

We Are Sick. It's time we admit it. We are collectively suffering from a gut-wrenching sense of separation from our fellow human beings. when a human being feels safe among his neighbors, he doesn't seek to harm them, he seeks to protect them. Our mission, then, is to heal the wounds that tear us apart from one another. Sadly, the virtue-signaling and self-righteous cries of "Get rid of guns!" not only aren't saving any lives, they're further deepening the divide.

If you really want to save a life, or prevent the next act of violence, dig a little deeper, ask yourself what steps led to previous acts of violence, and add a drop of love somewhere that it's sorely longed for. Congress isn't going to heal our communities, and neither is the next President, no matter which political party they hail from. Only WE, as individuals, communities, and human beings, can summon the love in our hearts that can change the headlines. Are you ready to heed the call?

"I love you so much I don't care what you think".

I wonder if you have the same reaction I did, when I first heard these words? "If we love someone, shouldn't we care very much about what they think?" Well, what I needed to learn was there is a massive difference between caring about a person, and caring what they think. Especially when it comes to what they think about me. Because at the end of the day, thoughts are just that, thoughts. They don't have any inherent meaning by themselves, and are often an arbitrary amalgamation of interpretations based on a person's past experiences, projected onto current observations about the present moment. I used to worry though, that if a person had 'negative' thoughts about me, that that person might somehow abandon or reject me, and even used to hide my real self, my precious authenticity, from the world as a result of that fear. I learned a valuable lesson though: an adult can never be abandoned. Period. Sure, as a 2 year old child, the threat of being abandoned was a scary one. If I had happened to have pi**ed off my parents so much that they left me alone on a street corner to fend for myself (news flash: that NEVER could have happened, no matter how much I had actually pi**ed them off), that indeed would have been a life-threatening situation. But I'm an adult now, fully capable of taking care of myself, and don't need to worry about that anymore. Yet, like any vestigial organ (ie the appendix), that fear has stuck around long after its usefulness has expired, and can only cause damage. So I choose to embrace that awareness, and surgically remove that fear, as best as I am able, by reminding myself how safe I am, no matter who may disagree with me or how strongly they may express their disagreement. I AM SAFE. Always. Those three words can be a magic wand, replacing fear with self-love.

Ironically, I'm so much better able to listen to what others think, without the fear that might have arisen previously, and embrace the learning opportunities available through different perspectives. I no longer need to 'defend' my own perspective, or try to prove that I'm 'right' and another person is 'wrong', because I know there is actually no such thing. I love the Rumi quote, "Somewhere beyond right and wrong, there is a field. I'll meet you there". Only by transcending our fear of not being accepted for our differences, can we meet each other as we truly are, in a field of love.

I'd love to hear if this message resonates with you. Please feel free to share your own experiences in the comments below. Have a wonderfully blessed day, and remember that the most absolute best gift you can ever give the world, and anyone is it, is Being You.

With love,
Colby

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