How to Human. Happily.

It's simple to fall into the victims trap. It's a very common and frequently found trap, we all end up in it at some point in life and that's not because it's a comfortable place to be (as some may accuse you of).

This victim perspective comes from past experiences: trauma of true victimization, experience of betrail of trust, codependent relationships or, in some causes, personality disorders or narcissistic tendencies.

Interacting with someone who always see themself as a victim can be challenging, especially if it's a close person. Thay will have a hard time taking responsibility for their mistakes and could blame others when things go wrong. So, what can you do about it?
* compassionate set boundaries
* don't encourage the victim behaviors (complaining, blaming, catastrophizing, etc.)
* ofer help in finding real solutions
* validate their feelings and their strengths

If you're the one feeling like a victim most of the time, then taking with a therapist might be a great way to start working on that mindset. It could be untreated trauma you're facing and that could lead to depression, relational issues or even physical and emotional difficulties. A therapist can help you with understanding your past and develop self-compassion, identify and use your resources and personal strengths, create a plan for reaching your goals and recognising your power.