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WHY I DON’T REACT TO EVERYTHING.

I’m 'Slowly' Learning That I Don’t Have To React To 'Everything' That Bothers Me.

I’m slowly learning that I don’t have to hurt those who hurt me.

I’m slowly learning that maybe the 'ultimate' sign of maturity is walking away instead of getting even.

I’m slowly learning that the energy it takes to react to every bad thing that happens to me drains me and stops me from seeing the other good side of things in life.

I’m slowly learning that I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea and I won’t be able to get everyone to treat me the way I want to be treated 'and that’s okay.'

I’m slowly learning that trying so hard to ‘win’ Everyone is just a 'waste' of time and energy and it fills me with 'nothing' but emptiness.

I’m slowly learning that not reacting doesn’t mean I’m okay with things, it just means I’m choosing to 'rise' above it.

I’m choosing to take the 'lesson' it has served and learn from it I’m choosing to be 'the bigger' person.

I’m choosing my 'peace of mind' because that’s what I 'truly' need. I don’t need more drama. I don’t need people making me feel like I’m not good enough. I don’t need fights and arguments and 'fake' connections. I’m slowly learning that sometimes 'not' saying anything at all says everything.'

I’m slowly learning that reacting to things that upset me gives someone else power over 'my' emotions.

I can’t control what others do but i can control how i respond, how i handle it, how i perceive it and 'how much of it' i want to take personally. I’m slowly learning that most of the time, these situations say nothing about me and a lot about the other person.

I’m slowly learning that even if I react, it won’t change anything, it won’t make people suddenly love and respect me, it won’t magically change their minds.

Sometimes it’s better to just let things be, let people go, 'don’t' fight for closure, 'don’t' ask for explanations, 'don’t' chase answers and 'don’t' expect people to understand me.

Enough word for the wise.

CTTO

Fall for a woman who doesn’t need you.
One who has rebuilt herself from nothing,
more than once, with her own two hands.
One who is delicate like fire,
who could scorch earth
or warm your soul.

Fall for a woman who isn’t afraid to burn
for what she believes in,
and refuses to force
what isn't meant to be.

Fall for a woman who lights up
when impassioned,
who still romanticizes life,
and is awed by the beauty of the moon.

Fall for a woman who isn’t afraid
of who she’s becoming,
and expects the best of everything.
One who refuses to settle,
and will challenge you to grow
in ways you never knew.

Fall for a woman who is so loyal,
so faithful and determined,
that there’s no room in her life
for anyone who isn’t.

Fall for a woman who sees your pain
and imperfections
as something to pour her love into.
One who accepts people
for what they show her,
not what they promise or claim.

Fall for a woman who values her time so much
she won’t waste it anywhere it isn’t appreciated.

Fall for someone who will inspire greatness
in you,
and who moves you in the direction
of your dreams.

When you find her, be there entirely, bravely,
wholeheartedly.
Give her your hands,
your energy, patience, and attention.
And show her there is no place safer
than the place right beside you.
Then, no matter what,
don’t let her down.

— J. Raymond, from Spades/Let Her Run.

📸 credit: UNKNOWN