DisaSTAR

Trauma bonds are wild like that. How does she crave the same person who shattered her? One moment, she’s ready to expose him, block him, disappear completely—draw a line so firm it can never be crossed again. She swears this is the end, that she’s finally choosing herself. Then the silence hits. The memories creep in, soft and deceptive. And suddenly, all she wants is his arms around her, pretending none of it ever happened—like love didn’t come wrapped in pain.

updating your partner is the most important thing in a relationship. being busy is not a reason not to update your partner that took hours waiting for your response or updates. entering a relationship is a big responsibility and if you can't handle the bare minimum he or she asks for, then don't enter a relationship. a real man or woman, no matter how busy he or she is, he or she will grab the opportunity to update you, because that's how relationship works.

yung trauma ng babae hindi agad nag hi heal yan, trauma doesn’t have a deadline. hindi yan porket nag sorry ka eh okay na. hindi yan “ang tagal na, move on ka na.” healing isn’t about time. it’s about what still lingers. may mga araw na okay ka, then one memory hits and suddenly you’re back there again. hindi porket hindi mo naranasan or hindi mabigat para sa’yo, magiging madali na rin para sa iba. we all heal differently. some of us look strong, but still get triggered in silence. so be gentle because not everything you don’t understand is easy for someone else.

I’m not even gonna lie… I like a little clingy.😏 I like the good morning texts when I wake up and the goodnight texts before I go to sleep. I like the random “I miss you” messages that come out of nowhere. I like calls just because. Double texts don’t bother me. I like feeling like someone actually wants to talk to me… not like I’m bothering them. It’s not about being needy. It’s about feeling noticed. Feeling wanted. Feeling like someone genuinely cares enough to show it.