Mehar Rab Di

Sharing this beautiful message that can be viewed as a reminder of why boundaries matter, even when our utmost interaction comes from our heart, being an ardent follower or when we are responding to an act of kidness by complete stranger.

Many of us can benefit from Anoushka Shankar below message, by
merely reading it, reflecting on it as breaching other's boundaries is ever on increase. You dont need to be famous, sometimes ordinary people do experience this as well but definitely celebrities are more on receiving end ❤️💛🤍🧡💜💙

A man picked me up last weekend. I mean, physically lifted me. He asked if he could, but didn’t want for an answer before I found myself suspended in the air, clasped in a bear hug by a stranger, feet dangling. I had been meeting a few fans after a show and it all happened so fast. I laughed awkwardly and asked to be let down, I signed his poster, I smiled and waved.

Later when sharing the story, I was quick to say I felt confident he had no ill intent and was simply being overexcited and thoughtless (I still believe this is likely true). I was surprised people’s reactions seemed more shocked and upset than my own.

Days later, the reality has sunk in. Once again, my l history of abuse meant I didn’t know how to respond appropriately to someone crossing my boundaries in real time. I centred his hypothetical intent over my lived experience of discomfort.

When this happens feelings of shame, dismay and frustration can arise. How can I still be grappling with these never-ending nuances? I have come so far in this process of healing yet a single moment can show me further wounds still enclosed within. Another layer of childhood’s memories resurfacing and shedding.

I share this to say: if, like me, you hold these experiences within yourself, please go gently. (Yes, I find it easier to tell others this than myself). The path of healing curves, and is never linear. If you lost your voice again for a moment, remember you can find it, always, within. The gulf between our bodies, our emotions, and how our minds are able to read them is narrowing with every moment that separates us from our past.

Sending you all peaceful thoughts this Sunday 💫

(Photo chosen for mood, taken some moons ago by )