Innerverse

Yup, you read that right. Starting the end of this week (when Jupiter enters Gemini), I’m stepping away from Instagram until further notice.⁣
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Instagram has always been rough on my mental health. The doom scrolling, pressure to create content, and endless comparisons don’t help my easily overstimulated brain. While I might get overwhelmed quicker than some, I know I’m not alone in struggling to maintain a healthy relationship with social media. Everyone I know has a love-hate relationship with this platform at best.⁣
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With the latest updates from , I’ve concluded that this app feels like a game I can’t win (and don’t enjoy playing). So, I’m doing what anyone should do in a toxic relationship: I’m breaking up with Instagram.⁣
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This may sound drastic, but I see it as a chance to be more offline while Jupiter is in Gemini. I’ll keep my account active in case I change my mind after a year, and so folks who find this account know where to reach me.⁣
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I’ll admit that I’m currently rethinking everything about my work: what to offer, how to promote it, what goals to focus on, and where to stop putting so much effort. I want to figure out how to have a thriving business without social media. My aim has always been to prioritize quality over quantity. Stepping away from Instagram helps me focus on what really matters.⁣
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I want to dedicate much more time to my own somatic practice and deepen my divinatory work. I want to write more longform quality content and create new offerings. For all of these things, I simply need time and peace of mind, away from the social media noise.⁣
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That being said, I’m still open for consultations (natal chart, forecast), coaching, and astrology mentoring sessions.⁣
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Where to find me while I’m offline?⁣
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- The best way to stay updated is through my newsletter. Link is where you think.⁣
- I’ll still be on Threads for some low-key musings.⁣
- I have a Substack where I’ll probably share more writing. Link is where you think.⁣
- If you just want to stay in touch as friends, feel free to ask for my number! I’ll need someone to send me all the memes I’m missing.⁣
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This upcoming eclipse has me thinking about the link between the South Node in Libra and the ambivalent/anxious attachment style in relationships. Ambivalently attached folks tend to overfocus on the other and underfocus on the self. This often stems from a lack of consistency from caregivers in childhood, which means that their self-regulatory functions aren’t always as well developed. As a result, ambivalently attached folks often look to others to down regulate or calm their nervous system. If we’re not connected to who we are and what our own needs and wants are, we’ll often overly focus on others (sometimes called a “fawn” or appease response). Sometimes this also leads to “clingy” behaviour or projection, which can have the effect of pushing away the people we actually desire connection with.⁣
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From Diane Poole Heller’s work: “As ambivalently attached people, we lose contact with ourself and reach out to others to get ourself back, but we end up abandoning ourself in the process. This is a significant dilemma for those of us with ambivalent attachment: relying on so much external input fosters overdependence, loss of control, and even more self abandonment.”⁣
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For this lunar eclipse, remember your own sense of self and connect with yourself first. This can look like taking yourself out on a date, connecting with the felt sense in your body, and/or reflecting on your own relationship patterns. In what situations do you find yourself engaging in fawning behaviour, and what underlying emotions or needs might be driving it? How can you nurture a sense of self while also fostering connection with others?⁣
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If you want to understand your relationship blueprint and heal your attachment wounds, I’d love to work with you in Constellate, my 1:1 astrology coaching container. You can book a free discovery call to see if we’re a good fit. I’d love to connect with you!

I’ve spent much of my life trying to figure out who I was. As a young child, I was sensitive and immersed in my own little world. Letting other people in never really occurred to me, as there was so much to explore within myself. But as I got older, I discovered my more social side. In some situations, I was loud, outspoken, even a jokester. I couldn't figure myself out. At some points, I started to think I was crazy.⁣
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It was hard for me to reconcile my sensitive and introverted character with the parts of me that were bold and silly. I could captivate a small audience with jokes, be an open book in many ways, and at the same time be socially awkward and reclusive. What was that about?⁣
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Nothing about my personality made much sense to me until I discovered my birth chart. Yes, my Scorpio/Virgo/Cancer placements perfectly describe my sensitivity, need for privacy, and social awkwardness, but I also have my Leo placements, and that Sagittarius Moon that comes with a little bit of spice. Seeing all the different parts of me reflected in my birth chart was profoundly healing and helped me understand that there’s nothing wrong with me. I contradict myself - because I contain multitudes.⁣
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We all have such contradictions within us, and the birth chart is where we can see exactly what those are. Sometimes it’s the polarization between wanting safety and being impulsive, or prioritizing others and flying solo. Having these contradictions inside of you doesn’t make you crazy or less authentic, it makes you who you are.⁣
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As an astrologer, contradictions in the birth chart are often one of the first things I notice and discuss with clients. And in my Constellate sessions, we go even deeper as we bring in somatic parts work. You not only discover your multitudes, but get to know each part of you intimately, establish a connection with your parts, and heal some of their burdens. Ultimately, this helps you feel more empowered, confident, and more authentically you.⁣
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I’d love to work with you. My books are open, or DM me for more info.⁣
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The work I offer is the medicine I once needed. When I was going through a huge identity crisis in my mid twenties (yay for Uranus transits), I had no clue how to move forward and find the liberation and freedom I craved. I was stuck in outdated beliefs about who I was supposed to be and didn't have the tools to understand, let alone embody my purpose. ⁣
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Reading about my birth chart online provided some insights, but it also kept me in a state of paralysis. I wasn't able to look beyond the very basic interpretation of what my birth chart said I was, and feel what else was possible. Hearing about my own strengths from another astrologer was affirming, but it always felt very surface level. Sure, it's cool to have a 60-minute session where someone tells you who you are, but then there's the rest of your life where you actually have to start embodying that. The star gazing in and of itself was never enough to change my life.⁣
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It wasn't until I started adding somatic work into the mix, that I finally deeply felt and understood who I was and how to make that person come alive. I quit my job in academia and radically changed my life. No longer the anxious overachiever, I now prioritise rest and authenticity. (Okay, I'll admit there's still some anxiety sometimes, but hey, I have Virgo placements... it's part of the package!) The combination of astrology and embodiment work not only offered me a way out of my distress, but also find my purpose within it.⁣
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I've been helping folks find their way back home to themselves since 2019. My approach to astrology coaching is unique in that I blend insights from ancient and modern astrology with somatic exercises and coaching. As an astrologer and embodiment coach, I don't just tell you about your purpose, gifts, or skills, I help you become them. ⁣
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Astrology is your North Star. Your body is the compass. Let’s map the way together.⁣
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After a summer of cosmic hiccups, Venus is finally back in better shape. This means that in theory, we should be able to reclaim some of the sweetness that Venus has to offer, including love, beauty, harmony and pleasure.⁣
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Yet the pathway to pleasure isn't always clear for everyone, especially in a time when peace seems so hard to find. I don't know about you, but I'm finding it pretty darn hard to experience pleasure when there is so much grief. But I've discovered a while ago already, that even in times of unprecedented despair, love and pleasure are the answer.⁣
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Because pleasure is a doorway. Pleasure is a medicine. Pleasure is generative.⁣
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And pleasure is not a zero sum game. Pleasure is something that can be life giving. If we reclaim our own sense of joy and pleasure, this also transforms the people around us and our communities. The world benefits from more embodied pleasure.⁣
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Embodying pleasure is a personal experience. It looks different for everyone. We often think of pleasure only in the context of what happens in the bedroom. But in its most basic form, it’s about how much we allow ourselves to feel joy and fulfillment just for the sake of it. How do we invite more sweetness into our lives? Can we give space to the yes within ourselves?⁣
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𝐑𝐞𝐜𝐥𝐚𝐢𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐕𝐞𝐧𝐮𝐬: 𝐚 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐢-𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠⁣
In this 30-minute reading, we'll explore your own sweet spot, focusing on how you can feel and integrate more pleasure in your life. We'll dive into your natal Venus placement and uncover the ways you can embody more sweetness. Whether you’re an astrology newbie or a seasoned pro, this session will give you valuable insights in how to integrate more pleasure into your daily life. You’ll get tailored reflection questions and somatic practices to stay connected with Venus long after the session.⁣
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This offer will be around until Venus leaves Libra in early December, so get it while it’s hot. 🔥⁣
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P.S. If you celebrate(d) your birthday in October/November/December, now is also a great time for a Cosmic Cycles session. Feel free to get in touch or book in the usual spot.