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DESPERATE HEARTS EAT LIES

When you are made to feel you are late in life, especially when it comes to marriage, you are compelled to get into any sort of relationship without thinking twice. To our friends, family and colleagues who keep asking others when they are getting married, you are not doing them good at all.

Your actions are pushing them into a wrong relationship. You are making them feel desperate for a relationship. A desperate person is a hungry person. They can consume poison without knowing. Sadly, many people have eaten lies because their hearts were made hungry for marriage.

A hungry person is impatient. A desperate person feels he or she has no time to waste, so they don't make time to study people to know them before they commit. They mistake who their partner wants to be for who he or she is. You get to know who your partner is by their actions, and that requires some amount of time. Dating them for a year will offer you the opportunity to know who they are before you agree to get married to them.

Unfortunately for many people who are desperate or in a hurry to get married, they end up falling for people because of their words. Who the person claims to be, what they want to do with you in the future, their plans and dreams; Only to realize later that, the person you fell in love with is not the person they claimed to be.

Bear in mind that, no matter how much pressure people put on you to get married, it's your marriage not their marriage. It's your call and not theirs. It's your choice and not theirs. At the end of the day, the choice will make or break you.

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HOW UNDERSTANDING ARE YOU?

One of the qualities people look for in others when they are considering relationships is understanding. And when they meet people who make time to listen to them and take their inputs, feedback, and suggestions into consideration, they feel loved and valued and end up in a relationship with them.

But things change when a couple starts having conflicts in their relationship. That is the time they want their partner or spouse to understand them more, but unfortunately, that is the time they hardly understand each other. Soon, the couple start growing apart, they cannot have a simple conversation without ending up arguing or fighting.

How good is a relationship if you cannot understand each other, if you cannot have a simple conversation without fighting or arguing? For most people, that is when they opt for a breakup.

The question is, is it difficult to understand your partner? The answer is no. You get to understand your partner when you are patient and make enough time to listen to understand each other's perspectives and feelings, rather than trying to project your opinions, thoughts, and feelings on your partner.

Don’t just listen to your partner; be willing to find out how they feel and give them the needed support when they get emotional. Don’t make them feel bad for being emotional. We all get angry sometimes when we feel mistreated, but that does not mean we have an anger issue. We all get sad when we are hurt, but that does not mean we are playing the victim or being dramatic.

To understand your partner means to put yourself in their shoes. That is how you show your love and care. That is how you make your partner feel like he/she belongs, is valued and is respected. Women feel loved when they are also heard. Men feel respected when they are listened to.

The truth is, we all want to be loved, but we find it hard to love; we all want to be respected, but we find it hard to respect; we all want to be understood, but we find it hard to understand. If you want to be in a relationship, then be willing to love, respect and understand your partner.

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Growing up without a father

Believe me it’s the worst feeling in the whole world

You never gets to knows how it’s feel like having one around

You never gets to know the joy it brings to other kids having both parents

It’s the type of feeling you’ll never be able to explain, always leaves an empty space in your heart, you’ll always feel incomplete.

As time goes by you tell yourself as I grow older I’ll get over it

As I grow older he’ll be less important in my life

That’s a lie!!!

It hurts like hell as you grow older

Sh*ts get worse

You question yourself if he ever thinks of you like you think of him

then you come to a conclusion if he really loved you he wouldn’t have left

And you just end up hurting

hurts knowing you’ll never know how the father-son relationship works

You’ll never have him to call you his lil prince

He’ll never be there to protect you

He’ll never be by your side to keep you safe

To make you feel safe

So growing up you’ll never know how you’re supposed to be treated by a man

You take every bullsh*t from any man

Cause the one important man in your life left

So you accept anything that happens to you

It’s a feeling that you’ll never be able to explain

It’s an unacceptable feeling

It’s so selfish how one man can ruin someone’s else’s happiness

It hurts everytime you think of him.