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One of the last things I thought about before bed last night is how important love and connection is.

I often get clients on my one-on-one coaching slots talking about how they are really in a good place in their lives, but cant help but feel like there is a void. Like they need a form of companionship.

When they say this, I think they expect me to say it's wrong. But on the contrary, I think it's good thing. In most cases it means a lot of your very basic needs are being met and you are ready for more.

Feeling safe in someone's presence and knowing you are accepted fully for being you is beautiful.

There will always be a place for connection with another person.
But we often obsess about this connection coming from romantic partners or we expect all the load of our care and comfort to be the responsibility of these other people.

You have to know that these connections are very possible in many kinds of relationships.
So, a good friend, a close relative, a co worker, a chance meeting with someone who understands you, even a pet...these are places that can be safe for expression.

And the beauty of this is that, the more you can see yourself as your primary focus of connection, the more of you will be able to authentically connect with others.

This is also why you cant afford to have people who you dont trust or feel safe around being with you all the time. Because every time you spend with them denies you of time spent in healthy connection with yourself and others.

So the choice of who to connect with matters just as much as the need connection itself.

So let your craving fill you with joy and gratitude that you have space to do and be much more.

Alright?

Enjoy your weekend...
Love, Dr M♥️

Women are never really taught independence or autonomy across many cultures.
And so, what had to result from that over time was a Fear of dependence.
The need to own things so as not to end up like the women before you.

But the truth is, it was never really about the money or the things you own.
Many women with money and possessions still arent as free as they thought they'd be after it.
So it has never been about the material things, but it's the mindset. The inherent knowing.

It's about the inherent knowledge that you are worthy of doing the things that are beautiful in life because you want to and because you can.

That freedom is of the mind.

And you dont need anyone's permission, not even money's permission to be treated with respect and to be loved.

That even if you have nothing material, you still deserve to be treated well and with respect.

You need to know that your very existence on earth is a testament to the fact that you are free to get all you want...just because.

That you always have a choice.

Money and Property cant give you this knowing.

So today, I want you to reaallyyy look at how you live your life, your choices, the things you say and do.

Are you doing them because you know you are free to do them?
Or because you feel you need to prove something to people?

I want you to know that you are free and deserving.
And you should own things because you want to. Not because you have to.
The vibe is totally different.

Your are free my love...FREE.
Love, Dr M♥️

I saw an ad on YouTube that was meant to teach men how to make the woman they are infatuated with, infatuated with them.
Am I a man? No
Am I curious to know what people are teaching men? DEFINITELY!

So I followed the link to learn this technique.

This person went ahead to talk about how women dont like to be sure in a relationship and how if the man acts distant then the woman would have no other choice than to chase him and her mind would be occupied with him.

He also defined the moment you know you are in love as the moment you cant stop thinking and talking about a person.

Did I mention how there was an agreement form that you shouldn't use the golden method to manipulate people?

And in my mind, I'm like how do you teach manipulation and tell people to use it in a good way?

Why do you want to build a relationship on infatuation, obsession, doubt and insecurity?

Why are we being told that controlling people and their minds to do our bidding is love?

Why are we romanticising codependency and emotional immaturity in relationships?

I dont know who is reading, but!

You are better off showing up as your most sincere and honest self.
Know what you want and ask for it upfront.
No games, manipulation, techniques or drama.
You wont be able to keep up the deceit for long anyway.
And you deserve to be fully seen and appreciated for who you are.
You are not for everybody and it's okay.
Soon enough you'll find your people but you can only do that when you are being authentic.
Be authentic.

Enjoy your week...
Love, Dr M♥️