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THE BATTLE YOU MUST WIN
By Bisi Adewale
One day — maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow — but one day, you will meet someone who seems to be more beautiful, more attractive, more understanding, more elegant, or even wealthier than your spouse. They may look younger. They may appear more fun, more spiritual, more caring. They may say the right words and stir something deep inside you.
And in that moment, a war will begin inside you.
Your heart may race. Your mind may wander. Your emotions may lie to you. Your body may even betray you. You will feel a strange pull — the desire to explore, to taste, to chase something new.
But listen carefully: that is the battle you must win.
Not with your fists.
Not with loud prayers.
But with your heart, your discipline, your loyalty, and your fear of God.
The real enemy will not be the person smiling at you — the real enemy will be you
Your own desire.
Your own lust.
Your own fantasy.
Your own longing for excitement or escape.
You must be ready to fight yourself
Remember the person you once prayed for.
Remember the vows you made before God and man.
Remember the love that once lit up your eyes.
Remember how you fought to win their heart.
That person — your spouse — is not your mistake.
They are still your answer. They are still God’s gift.
Be content with your choice.
Don’t let comparison make you blind to the treasure you already have.
Don’t let the devil whisper lies to you that a new person will fix your emptiness.
A new body cannot heal a wounded soul.
Don’t complicate your life.
Don’t build a second world of secrets, shame, and regrets.
Don’t trade a lifelong covenant for a passing thrill.
Don’t break your own home trying to visit another.
Win this battle.
For your soul.
For your marriage.
For your children.
For your destiny.
It is the greatest battle of your life — the one nobody sees but heaven watches.
Don’t be careless. Don’t be deceived. Don’t fall.
WIN
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WHEN PARENTS GOSSIP ABOUT ONE CHILD TO ANOTHER CHILD, THEY ARE TRIANGULATING THE FAMILY. THIS IS A FORM OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE.
My generation..
1. They want to last longer in bed but not last long in marriage. Pleasure over Permanence. Performance over Purpose.
2. They ask ‘how far is too far’ instead of ‘how pure can I be? They treat purity like a restriction, not a protection.
3. They prepare for the wedding night (seduction), but not the lifelong journey (sacrifice).
4. They spend years mastering positions, but not learning submission and communication. Sexual skills can’t substitute for spiritual maturity.
5. They want to increase their breast but not their brain. Looks are upgraded, but wisdom is outdated.
6. They crave chemistry, but ignore character.
What excites you today may exhaust you tomorrow if values don’t align.
7. They reject accountability but desire exclusivity.
You can’t want loyalty when you avoid transparency.
8. They seek s*xual compatibility but avoid emotional responsibility. They want the benefits of intimacy without the weight of commitment.
Misplaced priorities can mess you up. Let this be a call to realign our values:
Love with wisdom.
Date with intention.
Wait with purpose.
Marry with covenant.
Be Refreshed
Anwinli Ojeikere
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