Danny dercor

What hurt the most wasn’t the disagreement — it was how quickly the conversation turned into judgment.
When I tried to explain myself calmly, I was told I was being “controlling” and “uptight,” like caring about boundaries suddenly made me the villain. I wasn’t attacking her culture or her parenting — I was asking for consistency and respect as a parent too.
The room went quiet after that. Not the peaceful kind. The kind where you realize something has shifted.
Since then, everything feels tense. Simple conversations feel loaded. I’m questioning whether speaking up was a mistake — or whether staying silent would’ve been worse.
Now I’m stuck asking myself one thing:
Was I wrong for setting a boundary… or wrong for waiting so long to say anything at all?

I entered my marriage holding firmly to my Christian values, choosing to wait until my wedding night. But after we got married, I discovered something that completely shattered me.

My husband struggles with physical intimacy and is unable to perform sexually. He never mentioned this before we got married. Looking back now, so many things suddenly make sense, how he avoided intimacy for weeks, refused to shower together, and always found ways to keep distance between us.

I feel hurt, misled, and deeply confused. I wish he had been honest with me before marriage so we could have addressed this together or made informed decisions.

Now, just three months into the marriage, I find myself thinking about divorce, and that thought scares me. I don’t want to act too quickly or make a decision I’ll regret, but I also don’t want to live in silence, frustration, and emotional pain.

I truly don’t know what the right step is anymore, and I desperately need guidance.

What should I do?