Life With Allah

Today is the day of Ashura in many countries. May Allah accept your beautiful efforts on this amazing day!
The sea was in front, the enemy just behind. This is it, thought the Banu Isrā'īl. But not Mūsā. When his people cried out, 'We're finished!' he stood firm and didn't waver. Instead, he responded:
" كَلَّا ۖ إِنَّ مَعِىَ رَبِّى سَيَهْدِينِ "
"No! Indeed, with me is my Lord; He will guide me."
Musa didn't know Allah was going to split the Red Sea for him. He just knew that Allah wasn't going to abandon him.
When you make Duaa with full faith in Allah that He will answer it,

You will see miracles…

Muhammad SAW we love you and We follow You 🙌🥺❤️

I’m at a stage where talking about marriage with my children is becoming a bigger topic of conversation, and the conversations we’re having are hard because my children are sharing their concerns about finding a suitable spouse when so many people are addicted to the internet, or are work shy, or who don’t commit to the marriage. Truth be told, it is a concern for me as their mother too.

Sadly I’ve encountered many women who have been abused physically or emotionally in their marriages or an absent or adulterous husband and I’ve seen firsthand hand the toll it takes not only on them, but crucially, their children.

When a woman feels emotionally SAFE and supported in her marriage, she is ABLE to pour into her children all that they need from her.

Her energy isn’t spent in survival mode, in constant fight/flight mode or functional freeze….where she is able to get things “done” but is numb and disconnected inside.

INSTEAD, when she is emotionally safe, she can focus on creating a nurturing environment for her family.

What some men need to know, is when a wife feels emotionally unsafe, she is constantly on high alert - emotional exhaustion leaves her unable to give her children the patience, love, and attention they need.

A good husband is the one who makes it EASY for his wife to be a good mother by giving her that emotional safety. By supporting her to focus on her children and honouring her in front of them.

And YES, equally, a good wife is one who makes it easy for her husband to be a good father by supporting him, respecting him and honouring him too

Both husband and wife are pillars holding up the family. If one pillar is broken and not doing their job, the other one crumbles under the weight they are left supporting and holding up alone.

And when that crumbles, and there are no pillars left, what do you think happens to the children?

Food for thought.