Outofmatrixcoach

If you're on a journey of self-discovery,
Unducking yourself, dealing with past trauma,
Get steadily healthy,
And from there, creating a sustainable self,
Go listen to the 'The mountain is you'
By Brianna Wiest.

No doubt, one of the best self help book
I've read/ listened in the past 14 years.

A post about our judgment.
And our way of perceiving things.

When you claim you understand something,
If you haven't stripped away
The experiences, the situations, the judgements
Of how things should have happened,
The thoughts that lead you to believe you know it all,
You understand nothing.

We often project
What we believe we know
Onto situations at hand.
'It happened before,
This must be the same.'
And it's not always the case.

Our brain is wired to convert experiences
Into lessons.
To minimise the effort of having to think
About a similar situation in the future.
To save energy, to protect us,
To preserve us as species.
In the same way, habits are formed.

Your judgment is not absolute.

When was the last time when you re-evaluated
Your values, your beliefs,
Checked in with yourself
To see who you have become?

Because we tend to carry with us,
Judgements and misjudgements
Since we were children.
A 5 years old trapped in a 30 years old body.
To put it plainly, that's what is called immaturity.
Of course,
We don't like to be called immature,
'Cause now we're responsible adults,
We drive, we go to work, we vote,
We make our own decisions.

But honestly,
Who's really in charge of all those decisions,
Of all what we believe we have to prove,
To become?
Take time and reflect,
Because it's your duty,
To grow up,
to positively contribute to the collective,
To help the Consciousness expand.

Or...take no time,
And be a mouse trapped in the wheel
Of heartbreaks, failures and deceptions.

With ❤️,
Rux xx

Dependent
Codependent
Interdependent
Independent

I'm sure this quote will land differently
For each of us.

Human contact is essential for our survival
Evolution and so on.
But why do we do it,
Makes all the difference.
The place we are in our lives.
The result.
The way it impacts our lives.
The way we feel at the end of the day
When no one is around.

If you ever felt flattered
When someone needed you,
Imagine how would you feel
If someone chooses to stick around
When there is no need to be fulfilled?

Love,
Rux xx

Can you do yourself a favour?
Go where you are celebrated!
Go and shine your light
Upon people who aren't afraid of getting burnt.
The world is bigger than you and me,
Than you and them.

Merry Christmas!

❤️,
Rux xx

I'll start with a caveat.

*The statement doesn't excuse you
For being a selfish d**c.

👌When you live authentically
Being the best you can be,
Offering the best version of yourself
To the world,

👌When you've grown enough
To possess the 'good' qualities
And to show up in the world
As the BEST you can be with the tools at hand.

👎You don't need to overgive, to overforgive
To struggle to be seen and accepted.
Your 'gifts' have no requirements,
There is no trade.

❤️‍🔥You simply are
And others are drown to you.

As this may have a different meaning
For anyone of you,
I feel I need another caveat.

That's not the narcissistic way
Of saying

👎 'take me as I am, I'm not willing to change, to grow, consider options, I'll do it my way"

Rather

👍'I've worked hard to be the best version of myself,
I gave up bad habits,
toxic relationships,
toxic people,
Toxic workplaces,

I'm constantly growing.
I'm offering the best I can,
the best I am,
I listen,
I understand
I change.

If that's not good enough for you,
It'll probably never be.'

👀 Maybe it's time to remember
That any inauthentic behaviour
Is a way of pushing people away.

Trying to please everyone
would not only drain you,
But will bring you pain in the end.

Because who stays
For what you give
Will leave at first sign when you stop giving.

And who stays for what you are
Will never get enough of you.

👍GROW
👍KNOW YOURSELF
👍REACH HIGHER
👍GIVE UP (to what or who doesn't serve you)
👍LET IN (the people, the skills, the ideas)
👍MAKE IT WORK

You, as anyone else
Have something that is only yours.
A GIFT
Your gift will bring you
The right people.
Your tribe.
And you'll never feel alone.