sweat.slay

We’ve all caught ourselves judging others, whether that be out loud in front of others or in the privacy of our thoughts.

“She’s so slutty/fat/ugly/weird/gay/you fill in the blank”

Why would we think that about someone or why would someone say that to us?

I think it has a lot to do with something called projection.

We all have feelings that are too shameful, too dark, too embarrassing that we don’t want to deal with these emotions and they get suppressed within us. Tucked away for another day.

So we deny the feeling within us but as a way to still experience that feeling, we project it into the world and onto others.

We’re able to experience it impersonally, at a distance, as if the feeling belonged to “them”.

Why would it even occur to someone to call another a slut? Perhaps because they deny their own sexuality and notice the other’s freedom. Perhaps they are deeply insecure about their own body and thus unconsciously project this loathing onto others.

In judging others, you deny yourself the opportunity to truly get to know them and create authentic relationships.

Imagine the feeling of liberation when the things you used to judge in others don’t even occur as thoughts to you anymore. You get to genuinely know them as they are rather than filtering everything they say/do through the assumptions you hold.
-love