Shrimp Teeth

Happy (belated) 1-year anniversary to Polyamorous Advice You Won’t Get From Your Monogamous Friends. I’m a bit late because I was sitting on the beach, drinking sangria, and I forgot. But anyways it’s been an absolutely fu***ng crazy year (if you like hot gossip you can read all about it on Patreon). Thank you to everyone who got a copy and sent me sweet messages about it. It means the world 💖 also, I’ll be going back to doing workshops at in July, so stay tuned for more on that.

Part 2: for those of you who are asking HOW DO I LEAVE THE USA?!?!

I think one of the hardest parts about discussing this topic is realizing that the people who can leave (like myself) are not the people who need to leave. And that’s precisely why the situation in the US is so dangerous right now. Those who have the means to move are typically not in actual danger, meanwhile those who are getting black bagged by the state are usually not in a position to go. While I had no intention of staying in the US, and the decision to leave was beyond obvious, I think we can’t ignore the class privilege at play. To be honest, this would be my most sincere piece of advice: take some time to honestly assess your situation and motivation. By and large the most hysterical “I need to leave NOW” people I’ve encountered are older and very comfortable middle-aged white ladies. And I get that what the government is doing is criminal. And I don’t blame anyone for not wanting to stay (I sure as f**k didn’t). But my decision would have been the same whether trump or Harris was elected. I guess what I mean is that you need to think about whether you’d want to move to that country or not if this wasn’t happening. Maybe I’ll be wrong in the future but for now it seems like panic alone isn’t the best indicator of what you should do.

Part 1: I wasn’t going to write this today, but a handful of people are asking me about HOW TO MOVE and I don’t feel like answering individually. So here’s an honest explanation.

The one thing I keep coming back to is that the US is not my home country, so leaving has felt relatively easy (emotionally) but it’s an enormous pain in the ass. This isn’t to say you can’t do it. BUT the logistics are more daunting than it seems. We haven’t used any immigration lawyers so far, but we have needed help with registering our businesses. Luckily, my lovely gf is a fantastically organized person who loves research and can stomach being on Facebook (a lot of information about the visa process is on there, but not all of it is accurate). I think the only thing that’s made this possible is our complimentary set of skills. We are each good at very different things which has allowed us to keep the process moving as smoothly as possible. I don’t regret a thing. I am so happy I left. But id be lying if I said it was easy.

I wish we stopped treating every single disastrous climate event as a bizarre fluke. We know what’s happening. Even entertaining the concept of climate denial is ludicrous. Yet we still validate climate skepticism in the ways we frame discussions about the weather. I often hear Americans reflexively say “climate change isn’t real” in a joking/sarcastic tone whenever the topic is brought up. And while I get that they’re trying to allude to the wider attitude that the USA has on climate change, this continues to reinforce the idea that there CAN exist a second position. Climate change isn’t a matter of opinion. Climate change is happening. It is human caused. And the humans who are overwhelmingly responsible are billionaires who consume at annual rates that far surpass normal people’s entire lifespan. You and I will never be responsible for the emissions of a private jet. We are just driving our s**tty electric Renault trying to make a difference, knowing full well that it’s not helping. We’re so used to having only two positions when we talk about climate change - either we pretend it doesn’t exist or we bear the entire weight of the responsibility. Neither of those positions are realistic. Climate change is class struggle. Plain and simple. The reason we are in this situation is because the 1% exploit natural resources, consume at unbelievable rates, and block all popular demand for realistic government regulations to curb the impact. The only way we survive is by realizing that we’re already in the middle of a class war. We are the ones who have nowhere to go when our houses get destroyed. Our bodies suffer the impact of extreme temperatures. We bear the psychic wound of trying to fix a problem with inefficient actions that we recognize have no impact in the larger scheme. Obviously, not to say you should be apathetic or actively destructive but also that recycling alone will never get us out of this mess and it’s just as delusional to pretend like it will as to deny climate change outright. I am pi**ed. It feels like we’re severely stuck. I want more people who are pi**ed by my side. These freaks should not be allowed to exist in public in peace.