Crystal Chen

The capacity as to which we can feel and be with “big emotions” is our capacity to invite in and experience joy, pleasure and ease.

There is a distinction between HAVING these emotions and knowing how to be with them without judgment

We don’t go for the things we want not because we don’t desire them, it’s because it doesn’t feel safe for us to have it.

Increased emotional capacity is often only cared about when 💩 hits the fan and you need to “manage it”

But what if it can also be your superpower to effectively communicate what it is that you want?

What if at the very core of what you desire is first making it safe enough for you to have them in the first place?

If you want to handle your emotions like a G, click 🔗🔗 to get started bb!

Most of you are out here spending a lot of time talking 💩 about yourself and truly it needs to stop

And the sad thing is, most of you do this so often, you don’t even realize it is just running in the background 🤯

So what can you do about it?

✨Become more aware of your thoughts
✨Find evidence to prove yourself wrong
{so if it’s “I’m useless” find evidence where you have been useful}
✨Reflect on what you would rather feel or think about yourself

This takes practice
It may not always feel natural

But you are too cute to not give yourself the same love you’d give your bestie

Just because you are a parent doesn’t mean you have to give up pleasure and let go of shmexy time

So many parents seem to say this is the first to go and I truly believe it’s not because you have children but ….

💥Your expectations and beliefs around what it means to be a parent
💥How you feel in your new post partum body
💥Feeling guilty for wanting something for yourself and not giving everything to your child

And

These can turn into resentment towards being a parent, your partner and can trickle into other areas of your life

So in case you needed a permission slip that it’s ok to have some time for yourself for some wild fun, like you had prior to baby, here it is boo

It can be extremely easy to be caught up in the extreme highs you feel after extreme lows…it almost feels good doesn’t it?

The never ending healing journey

I get it

We all have our 💩 and I am a huge advocate for healing what ails us

But I am going to invite you to answer this, is the work still working?⁉️

Are you creating and building new pathways?
Or maybe it seems like you have but yet somehow you are repeatedly “needing” some sort of familiar routine to get out of it?

And it’s not to say that having resources you are able to access isn’t healthy, because it is in fact necessary

🫂BUT it’s about your relationship to your resources and the “need” to heal…and believe me, I’ve been down this 🐇🕳

And sometimes, it can just be another way form of avoidance

How well the work is working shows up not just in the way you feel …because healing can feel pretty good at times, ya know.

But in the way it transforms the way you navigate the world. 🌏

🦚How you show up differently
⚡️What actions your taking
🗣How you’re communicating differently

And let’s be real, life, in and of itself is always going to present more work for you to unpack.

Your capacity can only grow when you meet new edges in real time…not to be confused for when you discover a new layer of yourself

But if you’ve been in hermit mode for a while, maybe it’s time to embody doing the work in real life.