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You don’t need more pressure and I’m pretty sure you don’t need another generic sleep schedule.

You need support that helps you understand your baby, trust yourself, and create a version of sleep that feels sustainable for everyone.

If that sounds like what you’ve been looking for, support beyond black outs and awake windows reach out for a free Sleep Clarity Session and let’s explore what support could look like for your family. 💛

Why do we expect teenagers to be supported through adolescence, but mothers are expected to navigate matrescence alone? 😱

We say:
“Teenagers are hormonal.”
“They’re finding themselves.”
“They need guidance.”
“Their brains are changing.”

And all of that is true. And guess what, motherhood is the SAME!

Your brain re-wires.
Your identity changes.
Your nervous system changes.
Your priorities change.
Your relationships change.
Your sense of self changes.

Yet somehow society still sells mothers the idea that we should “bounce back,” hold it all together, and be grateful every second while quietly drowning under the invisible load.

Of course hypervigilance goes through the roof.
Of course anxiety can increase.
Of course you feel torn between who you were and who you’re becoming.

And before we go ahead, blame, shame and diagnose, maybe we can recognise this first ☝️

That ambivalence doesn’t mean you’re failing motherhood.
It means you’re moving through matrescence.

And just like adolescence it takes time.

Time to grieve.
Time to rebuild.
Time to work out where your value comes from now.
Time to understand yourself again.

So just as society has accepted:
“they’re just being teenagers…”

Maybe we should start saying:
“she’s moving through matrescence.”

Because mothers were never meant to do this unsupported.

And because when you don’t feel safe,
sleep often stops feeling safe for your nervous system too.

That’s why I created my (matrescence friendly) free guide:
“When Sleep Doesn’t Feel Safe.”

A gentle resource to help you understand the nervous system side of sleep, hypervigilance and why motherhood can feel so intense in this season.

Comment SAFE below and I’ll send it through 💛

Now I’m not an awake times hater (a have a free download of them so that would be a little hypocritical 😜) Because In 6 years consulting, i’ve seen awake times become a useful guide (not a fan of the well-known app suggestions though sorry!) and also the opposite.

For the families they have supported they’ve shined most when interpreted loosely and alongside the bigger picture.
For others, they’ve caused stress and hell (literally) and that’s okay but not okay (of course) when we want sleep to be as stress free as possible.

You’ve probably heard the online noise around awake times ⤵️
“They’re not evidence based.”
“Throw them out.”
“Follow them exactly.”

But reality (and life let’s be honest) is far more nuanced.

We know baby sleep is influenced by ⤵️
→ temperament
→ sensory nourishment
→ stress levels (us & them)
→ development
→ feeding
→ connection + co-regulation
→ circadian rhythm
→ nervous system regulation

Which means no routine or awake window can perfectly predict a human baby every day! (Remember this when your app tells you you they need to sleep now 🤯)

I hear all the time “I followed the routines and sleep still isn’t improving.”

And my first thought is: I wouldn’t expect anything different.

Because sleep is more layered. Predictability and rhythm are wonderful for nervous system safety. But they’re not the be-all and end-all either.

Sometimes awake times reduce stress for parents.
Sometimes they create more stress.

Why are we arguing 🤦🏼‍♀️

Let come back to what is important, what areas of support YOU need. If you’re ready to understand your baby’s sleep on a deeper level beyond just routines and awake windows you’re going to love it here 💛

Now for the nuances, tell me your awake windows story below. Lover ❤️ or hater 🔥…let them burn 🤣🤣